safe and secure relationships and sex

In a recent article here in Sweden 49% of the Swedish citizens voted that a safe and secure relationship would kill the suspense and excitement with sex..

Now, for me, this is arguably a showcase as to why alot of relationships looks the way they do, for me it´s the other way around.
Sure it is exciting getting to know each other, but please..

A healthy relationship isnt boring and a good sexlife can be great from the get go, our´s was, but a great sexlife can still improve and mature, and that´s how it is for us and how i think it should be for everyone, granted that´s not the case, but to see that 49% think´s that knowing that you´r secure with your partner will kill the excitement is.. plain sad.

Shoudnt people explore each other, get to know how to please each other and improve upon it, learning knew ways, having fun and so forth, and if you can do that with a person that you know will stick around and a person you´re safe with, that should be exciting and fun, leaving room for alot more "fun" and exploration :).

Anyway, the article covered the fact that almost half of the female population (according to a german study) over the age of 30 lost interest in sex (with their partner) after a few years if they felt secure with him, because to that group of females, sex was all about bonding your male partner to yourself, once they felt that was accomplished they lost their sexual drive, which of course the males didnt.

Guess that

a: explains why more or less 40-50% of both males and females are cheating on each other.

and b: why alot of relationships seems to be more dead then alive.

The good part of the article was that 51% felt the other way around and i guess it´s in that part of the population we can see alittle hope for humanity :)

To sum it up, losing interest in doing my partner, well that would be just sad, not that a persons sexual drive wont go up and down, it will and it does for everyone, but losing interest and the excitement with doing each other, that´s just sad and a sure way of making sure either one or both partners in the relationship will end up playing with someone else.

And no, i do not support cheating, never have and i never will, it´s just not my cup of tea and if it isnt your´s, keep in mind that you have to work for it to keep having a great sex life just as you have to when it comes to love.

Not to mention that regardless of how we look at it, sex and love are closely tied to each other in most relationships and most peoples lives and minds regardless of what they say.

In the end of the day, in most cases if you stop enjoying sex with your partner, trouble is bound to happen, sooner or later(not that there arent exceptions of course).

killing the suspense and fun or not